Is My Husband Raping Me? Woman Asks Fake Christian Ministry
?Is my husband raping me??
Un- Christian Ministry
Unfortunately, the woman turned to an anti-feminist blogger for advice about her husband. She picked the wrong guy to ask. His experience can be quickly summed up as:
- doing a lot of reading over the last year
- writing several articles on gender differences
- quoting his own articles as proof
- quoting Bible passages selectively or not in full
- being a 40-something, white man
- operating anonymously
- discrediting feminists and marital rape counsellors
The woman lays out her problem to the faceless blogger,
?My husband has sex with me whether I want it or not, all of the time. It has tainted our marriage and our sex life to the point of disgust. Even when I would cry, he would still have sex with me.
??I have told him this is not love; this is not biblical love… So please tell me how this is not sin. How this is not rape, or abuse of some sort. Because in my mind I feel like I am living with my molester every day.
?So as a Christian woman do I just keep taking it and keep the smile on my face pretending everything is ok when it is killing me inside??
She described her sexual experiences with her husband:
- finding sex painful during pregnancy
- getting drunk before sex and feeling numb
- putting a pillow over her face and saying, ?Just get it over with.?
- believing he only wants her for sex, so she feels like a whore and a prostitute
- feeling unloved and that he doesn?t care about her
- hating his touch
- becoming sick to her stomach after sex
- becoming deeply depressed, sad, and heartbroken after sex
- begging to go to a counselor
Her husband reacts to her:
- ?It will only take a few minutes, and I?ll be quick.?
- ?What is your problem??
- Telling her that drinking was a great idea, even when she is pregnant, and stocking the refrigerator with alcohol
Blogger’s Poor Advice
The blogger’s advice for women:
- remove all bitterness from their hearts and get rid of their ?horrible attitude?
- eliminate the terms ?rape? and ?molester? from their vocabularies
- submit spiritually, mentally, and sexually to their husbands
- find other ways of sexually pleasing their husbands
- don?t expect romance, conversation, or together time outside of the bedroom
- realize ?a wife is a real whore when she doesn?t feel like having sex?
- believe their husbands have a right to have sex with them
- see that husbands should ?put her need to not experience more pain and discomfort ahead of his need for sex?
- but realize that ?if the pain lasts for weeks or a month, she should have put his need for sex above her need to not experience additional discomfort?
- know the wife is sinning if she is disgusted by her husband
- repent for believing the devil who wants to destroy marriages
- understand a man should go to counselling but only after his wife submits to him
So is the woman?s husband raping her? The pseudo-counsellor advises that as long as he isn?t violent,
??it is IMPOSSIBLE Biblically speaking for a man to rape his wife. Abuse? Yes. Rape? No.? ?
Then the blogger does a complete 180 and refers the woman to his personal golden rule,
?Don?t do anything you don?t feel like doing.?
What? That comment is crazy. I prefer a different golden rule – the one found in Matthew 7:12,
?Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.?